"Once is at Random. Twice is a Pattern." -Honey

White Lies Protect No one, Not Even the Liar.

If you, yourself, hate liars why would you lie to your spouse, the love of your life- or anyone else, for that matter? Dishonesty is like the largest criminal offense, in the court of love. Lying is the most ignorant thing you can do, especially if you are rebuilding yourself or a life with someone dear to your heart. How can one expect to be trusted when they lie, big or small? Would YOU trust a liar? I wouldn’t. But, do YOU lie? People lie for all sorts of reasons; some lie to protect themselves, prevent an imbroglio, spare someone’s feelings, or glamorize themselves. Although these lies SEEM validated, they aren’t and never will be, just like any other lie. That’s just a little food for thought. Want to be protected from hurt? Focus on what you’re putting out into the universe, change your heart. Want to prevent an imbroglio? Stay on your toes, stop fibbing; imbroglios often are caused by being busted, for a lie. Want to spare someone’s feelings? The most important thing you can do for a loved one, of any kind, is be someone they can trust. Feelings are inevitable, you will never be able to spare them of all negative feelings, may as well ALWAYS spare them lies; it’s seriously the least you can do. Want to be more glamourous? Glamorize yourself; get off of your tail and do something spectacular. See how that works? There is never a real need for a real lie. Plus, Fly Girls aren’t liars, be a Fly Girl.

A wise man tells me, all the time,

“Once is at Random, Twice is a Pattern. Always remember that.”

And, that will forever stick with me. If you lie once, eh, you may be forgiven; it’s at random, right? However, if you lie twice or more, that may just be who you are. You’re a liar! Now, let that sink in. I’m almost ten billion percent positive that if you lie a lot, reading that did not sit well in your tummy. Well, here’s a tip from Shabetti, and the wise man that always tells me wise things, JUST BE HONEST; no matter your circumstance. Never compromising your integrity is far more valuable than lying your way out of, or into, something, even if you ARE trying to protect yourself.

If none of what I just said, to all the liars out there, convicted you and brought you closer to the deliverance of lying, in even the slightest way, here is a true story.

A woman fell madly in love with her dream guy, as her dream guy fell madly in love, along with her. However, she's so internally broken that she uses various techniques of self protection to prevent being hurt ever again- including telling white lies as a method to keep from having to give her entire self to anyone. This woman experienced some truly tramtic happenings during the early ages of her childhood that began causing personal problems as she lived her adult life. Well, in the beginning, her dream guy was understanding. But over time, what she thought were just little white lies actually turned into huge black fabrications, to the man she loved so dearly. He was becoming alarmed by her lack of honesty; she had no idea. All she thought was that she was protecting herself. Sadly, all that protection backfired and resulted in the loss of her lover. However, we know that with God nothing is impossible; he knew her heart and intenions, therefore answering her prayers and returning the man.

Juuuuust when he began making an effort to take his woman back, she lied again. It wasn’t even a simple lie, it was a stupid lie. He inquired about her terrible telephone service and vowed not to answer her calls again, due to the lousy connection. And, Instead of her just saying

“Alright, I’ll call you from my REAL number from now on.”

She carried her lie out and never mentioned that she'd created and had been speaking to him on an optional application, in case he decided against ever speaking to her again. You know, so that she could delete the app, in its entirety, and never have to reminsce or re-induldge herself in words from his text? Another awful method of protection. The woman was too embarrassed to call him back and apologize or explain herself, so she went mute, for days. I mean, what was she gonna say?

"uhhh.. I really want you in my life, but the huge phoebia I have of being hurt causes me to tell you white lies; it's all to save myself from pain. Thats why I lied about not ever giving you my real number. Because, I love you too much?"

That sounds crazy. Who'd believe that, right? The real truth is, we'll never know who'll believe our truths, or not, if we don't tell them.

Welp, needless to say, her lies resulted in the love of her life changing HIS number. And, she had no idea how long it'd been changed by the time she tried calling, a week and a half later. Now, in order to speak with him to redeem herslef, she has to track him down. Once, she gathers her integrity, of course. This time risking ACTUALLY being hurt, the one feeling she’d pried herself on never experiencing again.

Wish her luck.

Mind you, it was TWICE that this woman lied to the love of her life. Does this make her a liar?

It does if...

“…Twice is a Pattern”

“Shutup, -Shabetti Bashazz.”

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